It’s Day 3 of 21 Days to Solstice – a journey of celebrating our inner light and exploring the feminine. Today’s video talks about the Green Man, perhaps the epitome of a male carrying the balanced feminine. See the video for more about the Green Man.
Just to be sure you don’t think the feminine is just for women to embrace, I’m including some males who express the feminine. While it’s true that women are more biologically tuned into the feminine, men have access to the feminine as well and are much healthier and happier when they embrace it.
Why are women more biologically tuned in to the feminine? The uterus, estrogen and the birthing process all highlight the feminine principles of nurturing, long term relationships, emotional investment. The feminine honors cycles and the interconnection of all things. Women’s part of the birthing process is long, takes most of her resources and encourages interdependence.
Men on the other hand can do their part in a few minutes. They create sperm on a daily basis, whereas women are born with all the eggs they’ll ever have – carrying them for a lifetime. Does this make men less able to embrace their feminine aspects.
No. That’s all biology – only one aspect of our beings. Until recently, men have been discouraged, even shamed for being emotional, for taking part in slow nurturing activities. Still, many men have been able to call forth the feminine in powerful ways.
Here’s few examples:
Mahatma Ghandi – leader of the Indian Independence movement against British rule used non-violent passive resistance to free his people and promoted peaceful civil disobedience, inspiring future world leaders.
George Bailey from “It’s a Wonderful Life” – put the needs of his community above his own, created ways to provide dignity and reasonable livelihood for everyone, inspired love and loyalty, put his family and friends first. Although he resisted these actions and longed to explore the world and be adventurous – he ultimately came to realize the beauty and balance in his choices.
Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī – Persian mystic, theologian, Islamic scholar and poet.
My brother, John Bittinger – an excellent teacher, father and husband. He has always taken a active role in nurturing his children. He makes his family a priority and stays active in his community. He has a strong sense of service. He cooks, does woodworking, fishes, bird watches. He has strong long term relationships with family and friends. He shares his love, is able to talk about his emotions, dreams and life purpose.
A dear friend, Dan S. a stay at home dad, who gardens, cooks, takes care of the home and children. He built his own home and maintains several rental properties. He’s patient, kind, nurturing and never in a hurry. In college he minored in women’s studies because he wanted to teach home repair to women. He sings in the choir, teaches in the children’s program, is active in sustainability programs. I’ve known him for almost ten years and have never heard him say anything negative about anyone. He values his family and traditions.
What men do you know who embody feminine principles? Share their stories in the comments to inspire us all.
Let’s thank these wonderful men and give all men the room and encouragement to embrace their feminine sides.
Blessings ~ Coleen