The warmer time of the year is usually more about adventures out in the world. The winter is about sharing the stories from those adventures. Stories about adventures evoke treks across the globe, dangerous quests, or luxurious vacations filled with interesting characters. And aren’t those stories delightful?!
But perhaps more useful are our everyday stories. What if we considered our everyday lives an adventure? No, you do not need to change anything. The point of this post is: our everyday-ness may just be the story that’s needed. Watch today’s video for an example.
We live in an overpopulated world and yet we live incredibly isolated lives at times. But we are a story people. We are designed to be in community, to be interdependent, to share and learn from each other’s experiences. This is what makes humans so adaptable. If we listen to each other’s experiences our base of knowledge is greatly expanded. But instead of sharing real stories, we watch made up stories on TV.
Perhaps we’ve come to believe our stories are not significant; they’re too small, too boring. To suggest those may be the very stories that will bring healing and joy in a hurting world, … That might make us significant and perhaps even inspiring.
“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.” Marianne Williamson
Nelson Mandela brought international awareness to Marianne Williamson’s words. They touch a knowing place in our hearts, don’t they?
- Have you ever felt all alone in your experiences?
- Have you been convinced that no one else knows how you could feel?
- Have you ever felt no one could possibly understand your life – or, that if they knew you’d be shamed?
What if, someone shared a bit of their story and you found yourself in it? Imagine how comforting and inspiring that could be. In those moments you do not need some far off adventure, dangerous quests or intriguing characters. You probably simply want someone who can relate. What a gift! What a gift you could give.
Risk it. Share yourself with someone – find places where you connect and relate. Even if they don’t share your experience, you will have brought them a place of understanding that experience and help them relate to others with that experience.
We are a story people. Please do your part. Share your everyday, small, boring, incredible, inspiring, IRL story. Someone needs it.
In my family, story came through my mother. We’d tell her and she’d tell everyone else. So all our info about each other came through her filters. When I recognized this and started speaking directly to my siblings, our relationship totally changed. Words like, “you too?”; “I thought I was the only one,” and “I didn’t know you felt that way.” emerged – and so did a deepening of our connection. Shared experiences need to be validated through shared stories. For me, it’s been well worth the risk.
Blessings, ~ Coleen