What Do You Want? 3 Ways to Listen to Your Heart

Last weekend, on three separate occasions, I was asked, “What do you want?” In each case, it was conversational, but I have this agreement about three times. When Spirit wants to get my attention, I’m offered something three times. And I acknowledge that each time the question was asked last weekend, I could feel something powerful beneath it. I couldn’t just give a flip or casual answer. I actually got tongue tied, which is unusual for me.

After the social events of the weekend and my house guests left, I asked myself, “What do you want?” In my experience there are three things one must do with a question like this.

#1 Get Quiet. Questions that have a tug and seem to twinkle with power must be considered in a place of quiet. For me, that means going to my room, going out to a quiet place on the land, or taking a long drive through a beautiful landscape. Phone is off, to-do list is put away. I ask the question and simply listen to who/what wants my attention.

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I often receive guides to help me: an eagle flying next to me on the road; a river singing me songs of healing; an ancestor or angel whispering wisdom. Whether I’m half dreaming in my room, wading in a river, or speeding along on the road, much is happening around me. Some of it speaks to my question, some doesn’t.

#2 Notice What Has a ChargeAs I consider my question, I do so with a sense of detachment. I use a soft focus and very wide periphery (wide angle vision) that allows me to sense a lot. My task is to notice what has a charge; what shines, tingles, vibrates interestingly,… It’s like when a friend gives you a choice of three movies to go see. As he list the movies, you hear each title. And if you listen closely, you can hear which one(s) he truly wants to see because he speaks those titles with a little something extra in his voice – a charge. He might say it a little softer, louder, faster,… Something about it stands out and gets your attention.

I might see dozens of birds on my journey, but only one, the eagle, seems to connect with me, as if giving me a message. Lots of scenes and stories might flit through my mind, but something about Auntie’s words on her front porch swing when I was five seem to echo in my head. Many side roads might appear on my journey, but I only take the ones that I can feel pulling at my solar plexus. Everything else on my quest may be beautiful, something to explore for another day even, but I only attend to what has a charge.

#3 Be Patient and Don’t Grasp at Answers. I’ve asked my question, gone to a quiet place and noticed what has a charge. It can be quite tempting now to try to just make a meal out of whatever I’ve gathered. But I know from experience, it is best to simply be patient and wait for the alchemy to happen. A question like this might take days, weeks, months, even years to answer. Sometimes I go for a drive and come home with an answer. More often, I receive important guidance, messages, insights and possibilities, but no real answer. These kinds of questions are not for the microwave, they’re more the crock pot kind of meal. These questions need to be carried for awhile until something settles firmly in your place of knowing.

Too often, we ask questions and only listen to our head. We ask them with the pressure of getting it right, or at least answering quickly. To take action on such answers is usually a waste of time and resources.

These questions must be taken to our hearts; that’s where the wisdom lies. The heart understands that without the pressure of performing or hurrying – a deeper, more true and significantly more satisfying answer will emerge – and it will do so in right timing.

Do I have an answer? I have the beginning of an answer. In the quiet, I noticed how many things in my life are just noise: busywork, other people’s expectations, my fears and doubts. I’ve cleared much of that away, creating space for what I want to land. A client shared that she’s tired of trying to impress and of people trying to impress her; she just wants to know who people are and what they’re doing. When she said this, I felt a cleansing wind move through and blow away all the pressure I’ve been feeling lately to create sound bites and marketing platforms. And then it happened.

I came to understand the question in a new way. I have spent over two decades asking what the world wants from me and willingly offering my gifts and talents to that need.  It worked. But it really doesn’t sustain me anymore. Now, I must ask, “What do I want?”

My answer is that when I find the answer, I will magnetize the work and people that resonate with what makes my heart happy. Yeah, that’s what I want! I can feel my heart’s truth emerging. I also feel an incredible trust growing; a trust that when I’m in deep resonance with what I want, I will be offering what the world needs from me.

 

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me pass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

Do You Appreciate the Joys of the Senses?

Mama Earth titillates us with sweet scented air; budding trees that break into blossom; the song of returning birds and mamas calling to their young; the feel of warm sun on our skin; and, the unforgettable taste of fresh greens.

The sensual nature of May goes on and on; the sweet smell of fresh cut grass, the pungent scent of freshly turned earth, the cool feel of this soil as you plant seeds, the neighborly sounds of the local Farmer’s Market, …

In Celtic tradition, May Day – or Beltane – is the beginning of summer. Summer Solstice is the height and midpoint of the summer season. May Day celebrates the increasing power of the sun and his ever growing ability to penetrate the earth in the sacred union that brings us life. The Maypole is seated deep into the earth and with dance and song, we weave our intentions and desires for the season ahead. Our ribbons of desire woven around the pole provide a visual symbol for what we hope to create and harvest.

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These days, most people don’t literally dance around the Maypole. However, we don’t resist the call of Mama Earth to come out and play. We find ourselves drawn to what’s happening all around us. Sap is rising in the trees – which gently blossom, promising us delicious fruit very soon. Enlivening energy rises also within us; love is in the air, hope blossoms, we find excuses to get out – even if that only means taking our laptop out on the deck or squeezing in a walk during lunch.

I invite you all to consciously and joyfully enter the dance of May. Stop and smell the lilacs, tulips, camellias. Gather the edible greens in your yard and truly let yourself notice how your body welcomes their fresh nutrients. Or, just pay attention when you rub lotion into your skin. Savor the first sip or tea or coffee in the morning. Go to a Farmer’s Market.

Beltane is traditionally celebrated on May 1st. Lunar Beltane is on April 29th this year, which is also the full moon in Scorpio. Scorpio also calls to our sensual natures. If you get a chance, dance in the moonlight and enjoy the sensation of a moon bath. (Moon bathing is pretty much the same as sun bathing open to the light and enjoy!)

May literally calls us to our senses. Answer the call and see what happens!

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Head shotRhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me pass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

5 Ways Ancient Stories Speak to Us Across Time?

Can a tech savvy, fast paced world find any relevance in ancient stories?

If the number of movies and television shows, which include mythical themes, are any indication – the answer is yes! We’ve come to a place where our tech brains are hungering for heart context.

Enter eternal myths.

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Photo by Drew Hays on Unsplash

Thor and Wonder Woman (the Amazon) may be stepping into modern day life on screen, but they – along with all the other gods, goddesses, and elemental beings – are also stepping into our lives and activating aspects of our psyches that have been sleeping. Like the “Librarians” we protect a vast treasure of ancient knowledge. We house this treasure in our psyches and when new strategies, new ideas, new perspectives are needed, we need only tap into them.

These eternal myths are called archetypes. We recognize them immediately, often having a strong emotional response to them. When we feel such emotion, it’s wise to pay attention; that archetype wants to be activated in your life.

When the outer world becomes chaotic and uncertain, these archetypes call to us. They are not new, but they offer new perspective. How do they call us? Here are 5 ways:

#1. We Meet Someone Who is Very Different. We might have a strong attraction to this person, or even a strong desire to run from them. Something about them stirs something within us. We must respond. Open your eyes and heart to what this person might have to teach you. They are a living embodiment of an archetype you would do well to activate in yourself (in big or small ways). Note, this archetype might show up in an imbalanced way in order to teach you how not to approach the gifts they carry. For example, if you need to learn to use your voice and speak your truth, you might meet someone who does that in a strong and honorable way as well as meeting someone who carelessly hurts those around her with her words. Both have something to teach you as you open to this new way of walking in your life.

#2. We Become Lost. What we’ve always done just doesn’t seem to work anymore. We might feel bored, frustrated, and/or impotent. Usually this is because the archetypes we’ve relied on simply do not carry the energies needed for our current situations. This can show up as empty nest syndrome, a midlife crisis, a desire to walk away from everything, or a stubborn grasping onto what has always been. Beware. Do not rush to blame those around you. Instead, look for opportunities to try something new. Someone or something very different might be walking into your world. A perfect example of this is the mother whose pre-teens don’t need her as much. The strong mother archetype within her can become stymied and over controlling or depressed because she is no longer needed. This is a wonderful time for her to open to new aspects of herself or revive parts of herself she let go of when she became a mother.

#3. The Unexpected Lands in our Lap. This may be a situation where you literally get lost. You take the wrong turn and end up where you never knew you wanted to be. It can also look like losing a job, a partner, a friend – something that turns your world on it ears. This doesn’t have to be unpleasant. You might win a trip that takes you to a land that opens your heart. You might see a sign on the side of a bus that wakes you to an unknown passion. Following these unexpected leads can introduce you to the archetype you most need. I am not alone in recognizing that a serious injury became a great blessing because it introduced me to something new, and simply gave me time out of my ordinary schedule to hear what my heart was longing for.

#4. A Movie Grabs Us and Won’t Let us Go.  You’ve probably experienced watching a moving and unaccountably feeling connected to a character. The character seems to follow you home, appears in your dreams, shows up in conversations. Everywhere you go, there’s some reminder of this character. Pay attention, the archetype is greeting you and asking you to play. If you find yourself saying, “I wish I could be like that,” know that you can. It might look like a different version, but answer the call! This might show up in a strong connection to a particular actor. For example, I will watch almost anything that Sandra Bullock is in. Her characters tend to be strong, vulnerable and deeply caring. Like me, they often struggle with the balance of carrying all three. 

#5. A Book Jumps Off the Shelf. I’ve heard so many clients share that a book seemed to jump off the shelf and it was just what they needed. Yep, this happens. Sometimes it’s a book you bought years ago and never read. Follow these occurrences, they are not random. Something in you is calling to something in it. Be adventurous, see what it is. Note that often we have a sense of what we will need in the future. Those unread books or unopened art kits need not be a source of self chastisement; the archetype within knew his/her time was coming. Good on you for listening!

These are just a few common ways that our inner archetypes use to get our attention. These experiences wake us up, get us to look at things in new ways and gather from deep within us new strategies for living our lives. Here’s the kicker: you have to live in real life. Avoid getting lost in the movie, book, trip, etc. Instead of imagining what you might do, actually do it. Give your friends and family something to talk about!

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me pass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen