3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy – #3

Create a life where you’re fed instead of drained. We’re out of practice with sharing our stories and marking the significant moments in life (or in a day or year). Here in day #3, I offer a final relatively easy way to shift our focus in a beneficial and long lasting way for happier and healthier lives – you’re going to be amazed.

This is day #3 in my 3 days covering 3 ways to boost your lifeforce.

  1. Day 1 is here.
  2. Day 2 is here.
  3. Embrace the Power of Story.  We lose ourselves when we don’t tell our stories. We feel disconnected when we do not know the stories of those in our lives. And, when we fail to mark our days, years and lives with the ritual of story, we lose our significance and sense of community. Humans, by design, are collective animals. We need each other for survival, we need each other to thrive. We need story to find meaning and connection with ourselves and each other. Without them, we just move aimlessly through lives that are more drudgery than vitality. Why, because we must be witnessed. Sharing story helps us to know that we are not alone. Witnessing story helps us see our significance in community. Hearing someone else’s story inspires and connects us. Listening to each other’s story is key to finding places to share resources and to discovering co-creative solutions to meet individual and community needs. That may all sound big and technical, but’s really not. We all know how to do it, we just need to be reminded of its importance to help us take the time and the risk. Start in easy small ways.

Share something about yourself with at least one person on a regular basis. Doing this over coffee or even online at a regularly scheduled time makes it a ritual, something to rely on. This can also be a regular conversation with your kids on the way to school each morning (and the way home).  Unplug from technology and connect with each other. You’ll be amazed to discover things you didn’t know.

Journal your thoughts, feelings, and important happenings. Then read your journal every month to find the threads of story that want to be woven into a tapestry for your life.

Make this a fun and engaging process. Don’t work at it, just do it and explore how it feels. Avoid listening to another’s story with an agenda to fix or help. Let go and just listen to the story.  A commitment to embracing story is important, otherwise our everyday busy lifestyles will bury it. Beyond that just be an adventurer in personal story, finding the natural connections to shared passions, ways to combine resources, new perspectives and healthy, happy and vital living.

 

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy – #2

Everyday life can drain and exhaust us, especially if we let ourselves get caught up in transgressions against us. If you want steps that are relatively easy and shift the focus in a beneficial and long lasting way – you’re going to be amazed.

This is day 2 of 3 posts in 3 days covering 3 ways to boost your life force and just be happier and healthier.

  1. (Day 1 is here.)
  2. Bless Them and Let Go. Our lives are scattered with situations that severely tax us. Whether it’s the news on TV, annoying drivers, family expectations or unreasonable deadlines at work, they can cause us great stress and drain our life force. Or, we can make other choices around them. I’ve recently discovered in my own life how often I was in resistance around things that I had no control over. The resistance showed up in many ways. Someone would cut me off in traffic; I’d grumble to myself about them and on bad days go into a rant about discourtesy and irresponsibility; then share all that with the next person I saw.  A family member would make a thoughtless comment that hurt my feelings; I’d review a litany of past transgressions towards me from my entire family and vow to never be like ‘them’. These little internal dramas would take my time and energy, and they would not help me in any way. They didn’t resolve, heal or change anything except decrease my sense of well- being. Things happen and people are sometimes careless with us. It’s hard not to want to do something about it. Gregg Braden made a suggestion about blessings that really works for me. It gives me an action to take, which assuages my need to have some control; it offers healing and opens my heart; it introduces helpful and nourishing energy that revitalizes me. (This also works wonders when I’m the one who was thoughtless or careless.)

I bless the one who caused the harm.

I bless the one who was harmed.

I bless all who were witnesses to it.

These simple statements shift everything. They free us from the frustration of feeling impotent, because we’ve taken a very helpful action. Having taken that action, it frees us to move on to what’s next in our day. It saves an incredible amount of time.  I’ve done this for about 5 years now and it has made a true difference in my internal dialogues and in my relationships. I encourage you to give it a try. It’s amazing how this simple act ripples out in one’s life and in the world.

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Photo by Aaron Lee on Unsplash

 

 

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy

Drained, Exhausted, Overwhelmed? Yes, I know that’s our cultural norm these days, but it doesn’t have to be. And if you don’t want your life to be colorless or full of over responsibility and pressure, you have to take a stand and some action.

If you were hoping for quick fix, cover the pain, make everything seem like it’s OK – you’re going to be disappointed. On the other hand, if you want steps that are relatively easy to take and ways to shift the focus in a beneficial and long lasting way – you’re going to be amazed.

I’ll do three posts in 3 days covering the 3 ways. Here’s the first:

  1. Start Celebrating Your Life. Often, it is not what we do in our lives, it’s how we carry what we’re doing. Your day can go from a gray Eeyore colored one to a sunshine and rainbows day, or really any kind of day you want. Decide and then celebrate. It works like this. Start your morning with a plan – not of the details of your day’s duties and activities, but with an overarching flavor. “Today will be about simple pleasures.” “Today will bring new connections.” “Today, I will find calm and ease.” “Today will have beauty.”  You get the idea. Frame your day and watch how it plays out. Seriously, make a point of noticing the evidence that shows you your day has the character you planned. Be sure to notice the small gifts, not just the big obvious ones. Every time you notice, you’re also supporting your plan and making it even stronger. (Also, notice any sabotaging you might do through doubt or simple contrariness. We often make a plan and then let a little contrary voice tell us that our day won’t be any different – just hard and exhausting, as usual. When we do this, we’re actually resetting the day’s plan. The new plan will play out just as easily as the first. The choice truly, is yours.) 

     

    Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

    If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

Here’s Some Light for Your Journey

This afternoon I was reading Lorna Bevin’s weekly forecast. It’s not unusual for me to read a forecast and say to myself, “That’s how I felt last week, or two days ago.” As a sensitive I often feel energies long before they actually “land”. Several friends who are also highly empathic and sensitive say they have similar experiences.

If you read my last post, you know that last week was a doozie – very intense with lots of insight and a teaching. It slammed me out of all expected proportion. This week I feel fairly grounded and able to take on the world – the world, that Lorna says will be dealing with energies where “Everything – good or bad – will be dramatised and blown out of all proportion.”

As I read further, Lorna encouraged me to be the light in the darkness. Happy to be that.

Oh?! Well, isn’t’ that brilliant (pun not intended, but thoroughly enjoyed)!

Did I just tap into one of the key functions of a sensitive? Do we feel things before anyone else so that we can deal with it and then be ready to serve when whatever it is, lands for the collective? It makes sense on two fronts. First, as a sensitive, if I have to work with intense energies – I’d prefer to do it without everyone around me also being intense. It is definitely easier for me to process in an environment that is more grounded and calm. Second, having already worked with the intense energies, as an experienced sensitive, I can stay grounded while offering love and light to those around me. It just makes plain good sense. Brilliant!

The next time someone tells me I’m too sensitive, I’ll suggest they thank me. And the next time I feel overwhelmed by the intensity of the collective, I’ll remember to simply shine my light and love into the field to help ground and calm.

When one can make sense of the challenges that go with the gifts they carry, it makes a world of difference. It’s pure magic. We sensitives have a tendency to hide, mostly for self-preservation. For me, it’s time to step out boldly and courageously – to openheartedly offer my gifts and trust that they will be welcomed (even if they’re not understood or consciously noticed – and even if they call me a freak).

Lorna, in her forecast, continues to encourage with Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ wonderful call to action:
“One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your soul. Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times. The light of the soul throws sparks, can send up flares, builds signal fires, causes proper matters to catch fire. To display the lantern of soul in shadowy times like these — to be fierce and to show mercy toward others; both are acts of immense bravery and greatest necessity. Struggling souls catch light from other souls who are fully lit and willing to show it. If you would help to calm the tumult, this is one of the strongest things you can do.

There will always be times when you feel discouraged. I too have felt despair many times in my life, but I do not keep a chair for it. I will not entertain it. It is not allowed to eat from my plate.

In that spirit, I hope you will write this on your wall: When a great ship is in harbor and moored, it is safe, there can be no doubt. But that is not what great ships are built for.”

Thank you Lorna for your insight and the gifts you share with the world through the science of the stars. Today, you have made a significant difference in my life and brought me joy. Deep gratitude to you.

Check out Lorna’s website Hare in the Moon Astrology and find her monthly and weekly forecasts.

Here’s some beauty, light and love via fall brilliance from the Rogue River Valley:

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Blessings, ~ Lena

Can We Really Change Our Stories?

Honestly, I consider storytelling one of our most powerful tools. Our stories define us and create the lives we live. Sometimes I wonder if, at least for me, that is why I carry the gift of being a high empath. People’s stories are pretty transparent when I open to them – and being a high empath, people easily share their stories with me. Because of this, I get a unique look at the world – I see the stories that show up again and again. I feel their pain, their joy, their confusion, ….
For years, I thought my job was to share these common stories so that people don’t feel alone. In recent years, my gifts as a storyteller have emerged and I thought this was so I could share and teach more effectively -through the use of story. Both of these roles are relevant, but lately it has become clear that there’s more to it.
Science is giving us back our stories. Biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton challenges us not to act as victims of our genes, but rather to understand it is the environment in which the genes live that creates our reality. That environment stems from our thoughts and beliefs – (our stories). Researchers Candace Pert and Brené Brown link our emotions to our health and well-being. Our emotions and our stories cannot be separated. Physicist, Gregg Braden and Gary Zukav – thru the science of quantum mechanics – teach us that we will always find what we look for. It is the stories we carry and tell that become the lens through which we observe our lives. Cellular, emotional and quantum insights have inspired a new interest in the power of story.
We’re being invited to recognize the stories we carry and how we carry them – AND, we’re being encouraged to revise our stories so that they truly serve us. The energy of the recent solar eclipse significantly opened opportunities to reveal our truths to us – those energies are still active.
Yesterday, I was hit squarely in the eye by an old story – a painful one that shows up as a devastating thought. It goes something like this: Everyone wants a piece of me and no one can see that I’m sitting here bleeding. This is not an unusual feeling for an empath. It happens when we give and give without remembering to tend to our own needs. I never feel so alone in the world as when that thought comes knocking. It doesn’t happen often anymore, but yesterday, it busted the door open.
Those eclipse energies are helping us release stories that don’t serve us and showing us ways to move on. The really good news is…
We don’t need to wallow in the story or pick it apart until we’ve squeezed every last bit of awareness from it. We’ve spent the last several decades doing that, but it’s no longer helpful to us. The wallowing and picking just keep us in the story we no longer want to inhabit.
So how did I work with yesterday’s story? I felt it. It came as a perfect storm, where intellectualizing about it just wasn’t possible. I felt alone. I felt devastated by it. Usually, this story comes up as a direct result of some specific interaction with people. I get angry, blame them, swear to myself I’ll never help again and hide in my own corner of the world for a few days. When I was a teenager I went to the basement and blasted “I Wanna Be Somebody’s Baby” until I felt better.
Yesterday, there was no incident and no one to attach my feelings to – no one except me. I was the one who didn’t know I was bleeding; I didn’t notice.
In the last few weeks, I’ve been highly focused on learning social media marketing to promote my books and business. I was staggering under a list of to-dos that will never end. I pressured myself to post, blog and make videos; to design classes and meet with people – all so that I could continue doing what I love.
I love writing, storytelling and teaching. I’m learning marketing so that I can do what I love. Yet, in the last few weeks, I’ve done very little of what I love. In fact, the only place I was in the joy was when I was engaging with the community on my Facebook Group: Psychics, Intuitives, Empaths & Sensitives. That was the only place I was engaging in the magic of what I do.
With all this revelation, I couldn’t help but ask the question, “Have I always been the one who didn’t know I was bleeding?” My truth: I’ve always been one of the ones who didn’t know I was bleeding.
Yes, my sense of devastation and feeling alone deepened a notch or two. I sat there with tears rolling down my cheeks. What do I need to do to change this?
Because I felt a little helpless around answering this question, I metaphorically threw up my hands in defeat and continued crying. And then, something wonderful happened…
The thought came again and this time the story felt like a caress. I was shocked and I tried to push it away; I did not want this thought/story to be part of my life. But it was fierce and stood its ground, at the same time it emitted loving energy. Somehow, I heard it tell me, “I am your ally. I’m here in service to you.”
Shock and confusion can be wonderful things when a well trenched story needs to change. I shook my head and thought, what the fuck?!  (I rarely use the F word, except when I’m very stressed.)
I was at a loss; I had no idea what to do? And that’s when my resistance yielded and this new story could take root. My truth: this thought is an ally – a fierce one that knows how to get my attention and put me on alert. It only visits when I’ve missed earlier warning signs, like “I’m really tired,” and “I’d like to escape to …..”
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This thought that I’m bleeding and everyone wants a piece of me is no longer a story about being used up, ignored and underappreciated by my friends/family/community. This ally, this fierce and loving ally, shows up as a thought to tell me I need to take care of myself, now.
I hope that I never see this ally again. And, I am deeply grateful to know she will show up, if necessary and lovingly order me back into balance.
While I’m sharing gratitude, here’s a shout out to Barry Manilow, who always noticed I was bleeding and sent me his music and lyrics as a balm. He raged with me in “I Wanna Be Somebody’s Baby”  and inspired me to give things another shot with “One Voice”.
Here’s to all our allies and here’s hoping we see them clearly.  Much love to you all! ~ Lena

Do I Have the Courage?

I’m on the precipice. There’s no going back; the joy has left that path and I just feel bored when I consider staying put. My toes are gripping the edge of the cliff. But I have no idea what it is that I’m jumping into. It calls me, but ….Do I have the courage to jump?

I’ve been sitting with this question for a couple of days. I’ve been beating myself up for lacking the courage I think I need. But I just can’t move. My calves are cramping, but still I teeter. This question seems to just keep me stuck.

As soon as I hear myself say the word stuck, it occurs to me that I’m asking an unworthy question. (See earlier post on The Unworthy Question.) I step back from that teetering edge and consider what is going on. The situation feels ambiguous. I’m not really sure what it is that I need to leave. I love working with private clients. I enjoy writing. I’m even feeling intrigued with learning about effective use of social media. Yet, something is off. I feel bored with myself, with my life.

Something is calling me. I can feel it, hear it. It draws me – but I don’t know what it is. I just feel that I need it. But maybe I’m wrong.  Do I have the courage to jump anyway?

Ding, ding, ding! Of course I’m teetering; I’m asking a question full of doubt.

I trust myself enough to trust my knowing that I need to jump. The question I need is: Where do I find the courage? Yes, that feels better. This question infers that I will find the courage, even if I don’t know where. This question just makes plain good sense. I relax and open to possibilities.

I decide to check my emails. My friend, Suzy Wenger, is traveling in Ireland and has sent me a photo from the Cliffs of Moher.

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Cliffs of Moher, Ireland – Photo by Suzy Wenger

I feel transported and intrigued by the mysterious caves, rock formations and the water itself. I want to stand on top of the cliffs and dive. I imagine doing so: the wind blowing through my hair, the freedom of the fall, the welcoming waves, all the possibilities to explore. Yes, I feel fear too. But the mystery calls me more fiercely than the voice of fear; louder than my science brain that tells me there are rocks below the water and that the water is freezing.

Where do I find the courage to jump? In the mystery, I find it in the mystery – right next to adventure, curiosity and wings – my wings. It’s simply time to fly.  I no longer need courage, I just need to remember that I have wings – and that the mystery holds magic. Who’d have guessed I’d find all that in a photo – minutes after I found the worthy question.

Wanna know where my wings are taking me? Me too. I’ll share it in my next post.
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Preening my wings in preparation for flight, ~ Lena

Past Life Intrigue

When I first started doing bodywork – massage in those early years – I would never have guessed that I’d be working with past life issues and the intrigue they can bring. It first happened when a client on my table started talking about her relationship with her mother. As we continued working, she started talking about memories from the Amazon  and Europe during the Renaissance. As she talked, I noticed her facial features seemed to morph.

The body stores memories, you see. Often, when I’m working on someone memories of childhood, past loves, traumas, … will suddenly pop into their heads. They’re almost always high emotion events. While I’m working on the physical tissues, the memories they hold are accessed.

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Dandelion & Other Gifts of Magic

Yesterday I posted about dandelions. Today I was cleaning out my email box and came across an old email from my friend Mellissae Lucia. She knows of my love of dandelions and when her friend posted about them, she forwarded it to me.

I am now forwarding it on – as a follow up to my last post, and, to introduce you to one of my favorite poets, Wendy Mulhern. She has such a wonderful way of crafting verse. I particularly enjoy when she allows the earth to speak through her. Continue reading

Suffer the Dandelions

It’s quite difficult for me to use suffer and dandelions in the same phrase. I did it for you, dear reader – particularly if you are a lover of endless green lawns. I know how you must struggle to keep the wily dandelion at bay.

I am a great lover of dandelions. When I was a young girl, I wove them into chains to make crowns. Admittedly, the crowns were sticky and not particularly sweet smelling. But when you love something, you put up with such things. I’d tell a dandelion in full fluff of my deepest desires and then blow the seeds into the wind, trusting the dandelion to carry my wishes out into the world and back to me again. Continue reading