3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy – #3

Create a life where you’re fed instead of drained. We’re out of practice with sharing our stories and marking the significant moments in life (or in a day or year). Here in day #3, I offer a final relatively easy way to shift our focus in a beneficial and long lasting way for happier and healthier lives – you’re going to be amazed.

This is day #3 in my 3 days covering 3 ways to boost your lifeforce.

  1. Day 1 is here.
  2. Day 2 is here.
  3. Embrace the Power of Story.  We lose ourselves when we don’t tell our stories. We feel disconnected when we do not know the stories of those in our lives. And, when we fail to mark our days, years and lives with the ritual of story, we lose our significance and sense of community. Humans, by design, are collective animals. We need each other for survival, we need each other to thrive. We need story to find meaning and connection with ourselves and each other. Without them, we just move aimlessly through lives that are more drudgery than vitality. Why, because we must be witnessed. Sharing story helps us to know that we are not alone. Witnessing story helps us see our significance in community. Hearing someone else’s story inspires and connects us. Listening to each other’s story is key to finding places to share resources and to discovering co-creative solutions to meet individual and community needs. That may all sound big and technical, but’s really not. We all know how to do it, we just need to be reminded of its importance to help us take the time and the risk. Start in easy small ways.

Share something about yourself with at least one person on a regular basis. Doing this over coffee or even online at a regularly scheduled time makes it a ritual, something to rely on. This can also be a regular conversation with your kids on the way to school each morning (and the way home).  Unplug from technology and connect with each other. You’ll be amazed to discover things you didn’t know.

Journal your thoughts, feelings, and important happenings. Then read your journal every month to find the threads of story that want to be woven into a tapestry for your life.

Make this a fun and engaging process. Don’t work at it, just do it and explore how it feels. Avoid listening to another’s story with an agenda to fix or help. Let go and just listen to the story.  A commitment to embracing story is important, otherwise our everyday busy lifestyles will bury it. Beyond that just be an adventurer in personal story, finding the natural connections to shared passions, ways to combine resources, new perspectives and healthy, happy and vital living.

 

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy – #2

Everyday life can drain and exhaust us, especially if we let ourselves get caught up in transgressions against us. If you want steps that are relatively easy and shift the focus in a beneficial and long lasting way – you’re going to be amazed.

This is day 2 of 3 posts in 3 days covering 3 ways to boost your life force and just be happier and healthier.

  1. (Day 1 is here.)
  2. Bless Them and Let Go. Our lives are scattered with situations that severely tax us. Whether it’s the news on TV, annoying drivers, family expectations or unreasonable deadlines at work, they can cause us great stress and drain our life force. Or, we can make other choices around them. I’ve recently discovered in my own life how often I was in resistance around things that I had no control over. The resistance showed up in many ways. Someone would cut me off in traffic; I’d grumble to myself about them and on bad days go into a rant about discourtesy and irresponsibility; then share all that with the next person I saw.  A family member would make a thoughtless comment that hurt my feelings; I’d review a litany of past transgressions towards me from my entire family and vow to never be like ‘them’. These little internal dramas would take my time and energy, and they would not help me in any way. They didn’t resolve, heal or change anything except decrease my sense of well- being. Things happen and people are sometimes careless with us. It’s hard not to want to do something about it. Gregg Braden made a suggestion about blessings that really works for me. It gives me an action to take, which assuages my need to have some control; it offers healing and opens my heart; it introduces helpful and nourishing energy that revitalizes me. (This also works wonders when I’m the one who was thoughtless or careless.)

I bless the one who caused the harm.

I bless the one who was harmed.

I bless all who were witnesses to it.

These simple statements shift everything. They free us from the frustration of feeling impotent, because we’ve taken a very helpful action. Having taken that action, it frees us to move on to what’s next in our day. It saves an incredible amount of time.  I’ve done this for about 5 years now and it has made a true difference in my internal dialogues and in my relationships. I encourage you to give it a try. It’s amazing how this simple act ripples out in one’s life and in the world.

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Photo by Aaron Lee on Unsplash

 

 

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy

Drained, Exhausted, Overwhelmed? Yes, I know that’s our cultural norm these days, but it doesn’t have to be. And if you don’t want your life to be colorless or full of over responsibility and pressure, you have to take a stand and some action.

If you were hoping for quick fix, cover the pain, make everything seem like it’s OK – you’re going to be disappointed. On the other hand, if you want steps that are relatively easy to take and ways to shift the focus in a beneficial and long lasting way – you’re going to be amazed.

I’ll do three posts in 3 days covering the 3 ways. Here’s the first:

  1. Start Celebrating Your Life. Often, it is not what we do in our lives, it’s how we carry what we’re doing. Your day can go from a gray Eeyore colored one to a sunshine and rainbows day, or really any kind of day you want. Decide and then celebrate. It works like this. Start your morning with a plan – not of the details of your day’s duties and activities, but with an overarching flavor. “Today will be about simple pleasures.” “Today will bring new connections.” “Today, I will find calm and ease.” “Today will have beauty.”  You get the idea. Frame your day and watch how it plays out. Seriously, make a point of noticing the evidence that shows you your day has the character you planned. Be sure to notice the small gifts, not just the big obvious ones. Every time you notice, you’re also supporting your plan and making it even stronger. (Also, notice any sabotaging you might do through doubt or simple contrariness. We often make a plan and then let a little contrary voice tell us that our day won’t be any different – just hard and exhausting, as usual. When we do this, we’re actually resetting the day’s plan. The new plan will play out just as easily as the first. The choice truly, is yours.) 

     

    Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

    If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

#IPromiseMe: An Alchemist without a Cauldron

From my last post  you know that I’ve made a promise to me to center my life through me. My dreams, longings, desires and health are vital; I need them in order to do my work in the world, to be of service.

When Spider Woman suggested I discern what my guideposts were, I was intrigued. What are the structures upon which I build the tapestry, the web, of my life. What’s always there, even when I jump an outdated web.

Music was the first and most obvious guidepost. I discovered long ago that if I’m not doing music of some kind, I just don’t feel like myself. My family sang, we all played instruments and without Barry Manilow I’m not sure I would have made it through my teens.

The next two guideposts took more thought, but the last one was quite a challenge. It took me weeks and when I wasn’t even thinking about it, it suddenly occurred to me.

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Photo by Anton Darius | @theSollers on Unsplash

I’m an alchemist, always have been. This conjures up images of fire, smoke and some chemical reaction. Merriam Webster offers this definition of an alchemist: someone who transforms things for the better. I like to think of alchemy as the blending of two or more elements, the combination of which is greater than their sum.

I like working with other people, blending our gifts and talents. I love cooking and how one ingredient can totally transform a dish. I love the secrets of how to take the sour out of tomato sauce or how toasting a grain before adding it to water can make a dish sparkle with depth and flavor notes.

I have a gift for seeing the many aspects present in a person, group, piece of music, … I sense how the different elements combine to create possibilities – like a kaleidoscope changing with a shift in light or touch.

I am brilliant at story – catching the nuances of telling that can shift an audience, a heart, a life.

I have experienced the incredible beauty of a circle of strangers, stuck in their own stories, transforming each other and ultimately the world. This is magic, alchemy.

I feel most centered as an alchemist when I do SpiritSong. The whole world becomes a cauldron, filled with all the elements, potentials and possibilities. I simply open; I become the instrument – both most purely myself and most free of self. Spirit moves through the song like a ladle blending the contents of the cauldron until it’s “better”.

Ritual is the other place where, for me, alchemy is so tenderly present. The work of seeing the micro in the macro; the internal and external; of using movement, music, intention, connection – to heal and transform. It’s all remarkable to me to feel these shift and see them ripple out into the world.

It’s only since my work with Spider Woman that I’ve identified this aspect of my being, which speaks so sweetly to my heart. Naming it has been quite powerful. As I move through life, I find myself saying, “yes, alchemy is what I’m doing here.” It’s a regular dance, this alchemy – whether I’m cooking, singing, healing, writing, leading circle, inviting just the right combination of folks for tea, …

Last week I had an appointment with a new primary healthcare practitioner. I’ve been putting it off because my experiences in the last few years can be characterized as painful and unhelpful. I’ve felt like a statistic and when results come back that don’t support what they were statistically sure was the issue, they shrug their shoulders and send me on my way (after offering meds for the issue they were sure I had, but can’t substantiate). I received my health intake in the mail and dutifully filled it out. I realized that their questions were going to take me to the same experience I’ve been having. I wanted to cancel, but something in me rallied.

“I’m an alchemist. I can make this better.”

I sat down and made a list of all the things I’ve been noticing about my health. I included my concerns and a list of my goals/priorities. I kept the list handy and over the next few days added to it until I felt it represented who I am and how I feel in my body.

Then, I adjusted my attitude. If I wanted the best of this new practitioner, I needed to bring my best – including an expectation of a positive, hopeful and practical coming together in support of my health and well-being.

I left the appointment feeling positive and hopeful about our plan. I had practical steps to take immediately, some tests scheduled and even a tentative diagnosis that actually makes sense to me. Best of all, as she left, my practitioner said, “It’s an honor to be on this journey with you.” I felt deeply listened to, cared for, supported and really motivated. Alchemy!

As I promised me, I brought myself fully into the process. I made it better by stepping into the center of those statistics and saying, “This is me.”

I’m grateful to share this direction from Spider Woman and the ways that I navigate it all.  I also love hearing from you. What are you promising yourself?

Thanks for reading and being part of my circle.

Blessings, ~ Coleen