3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy – #3

Create a life where you’re fed instead of drained. We’re out of practice with sharing our stories and marking the significant moments in life (or in a day or year). Here in day #3, I offer a final relatively easy way to shift our focus in a beneficial and long lasting way for happier and healthier lives – you’re going to be amazed.

This is day #3 in my 3 days covering 3 ways to boost your lifeforce.

  1. Day 1 is here.
  2. Day 2 is here.
  3. Embrace the Power of Story.  We lose ourselves when we don’t tell our stories. We feel disconnected when we do not know the stories of those in our lives. And, when we fail to mark our days, years and lives with the ritual of story, we lose our significance and sense of community. Humans, by design, are collective animals. We need each other for survival, we need each other to thrive. We need story to find meaning and connection with ourselves and each other. Without them, we just move aimlessly through lives that are more drudgery than vitality. Why, because we must be witnessed. Sharing story helps us to know that we are not alone. Witnessing story helps us see our significance in community. Hearing someone else’s story inspires and connects us. Listening to each other’s story is key to finding places to share resources and to discovering co-creative solutions to meet individual and community needs. That may all sound big and technical, but’s really not. We all know how to do it, we just need to be reminded of its importance to help us take the time and the risk. Start in easy small ways.

Share something about yourself with at least one person on a regular basis. Doing this over coffee or even online at a regularly scheduled time makes it a ritual, something to rely on. This can also be a regular conversation with your kids on the way to school each morning (and the way home).  Unplug from technology and connect with each other. You’ll be amazed to discover things you didn’t know.

Journal your thoughts, feelings, and important happenings. Then read your journal every month to find the threads of story that want to be woven into a tapestry for your life.

Make this a fun and engaging process. Don’t work at it, just do it and explore how it feels. Avoid listening to another’s story with an agenda to fix or help. Let go and just listen to the story.  A commitment to embracing story is important, otherwise our everyday busy lifestyles will bury it. Beyond that just be an adventurer in personal story, finding the natural connections to shared passions, ways to combine resources, new perspectives and healthy, happy and vital living.

 

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy – #2

Everyday life can drain and exhaust us, especially if we let ourselves get caught up in transgressions against us. If you want steps that are relatively easy and shift the focus in a beneficial and long lasting way – you’re going to be amazed.

This is day 2 of 3 posts in 3 days covering 3 ways to boost your life force and just be happier and healthier.

  1. (Day 1 is here.)
  2. Bless Them and Let Go. Our lives are scattered with situations that severely tax us. Whether it’s the news on TV, annoying drivers, family expectations or unreasonable deadlines at work, they can cause us great stress and drain our life force. Or, we can make other choices around them. I’ve recently discovered in my own life how often I was in resistance around things that I had no control over. The resistance showed up in many ways. Someone would cut me off in traffic; I’d grumble to myself about them and on bad days go into a rant about discourtesy and irresponsibility; then share all that with the next person I saw.  A family member would make a thoughtless comment that hurt my feelings; I’d review a litany of past transgressions towards me from my entire family and vow to never be like ‘them’. These little internal dramas would take my time and energy, and they would not help me in any way. They didn’t resolve, heal or change anything except decrease my sense of well- being. Things happen and people are sometimes careless with us. It’s hard not to want to do something about it. Gregg Braden made a suggestion about blessings that really works for me. It gives me an action to take, which assuages my need to have some control; it offers healing and opens my heart; it introduces helpful and nourishing energy that revitalizes me. (This also works wonders when I’m the one who was thoughtless or careless.)

I bless the one who caused the harm.

I bless the one who was harmed.

I bless all who were witnesses to it.

These simple statements shift everything. They free us from the frustration of feeling impotent, because we’ve taken a very helpful action. Having taken that action, it frees us to move on to what’s next in our day. It saves an incredible amount of time.  I’ve done this for about 5 years now and it has made a true difference in my internal dialogues and in my relationships. I encourage you to give it a try. It’s amazing how this simple act ripples out in one’s life and in the world.

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Photo by Aaron Lee on Unsplash

 

 

Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

3 Ways to Boost Your Life and Energy

Drained, Exhausted, Overwhelmed? Yes, I know that’s our cultural norm these days, but it doesn’t have to be. And if you don’t want your life to be colorless or full of over responsibility and pressure, you have to take a stand and some action.

If you were hoping for quick fix, cover the pain, make everything seem like it’s OK – you’re going to be disappointed. On the other hand, if you want steps that are relatively easy to take and ways to shift the focus in a beneficial and long lasting way – you’re going to be amazed.

I’ll do three posts in 3 days covering the 3 ways. Here’s the first:

  1. Start Celebrating Your Life. Often, it is not what we do in our lives, it’s how we carry what we’re doing. Your day can go from a gray Eeyore colored one to a sunshine and rainbows day, or really any kind of day you want. Decide and then celebrate. It works like this. Start your morning with a plan – not of the details of your day’s duties and activities, but with an overarching flavor. “Today will be about simple pleasures.” “Today will bring new connections.” “Today, I will find calm and ease.” “Today will have beauty.”  You get the idea. Frame your day and watch how it plays out. Seriously, make a point of noticing the evidence that shows you your day has the character you planned. Be sure to notice the small gifts, not just the big obvious ones. Every time you notice, you’re also supporting your plan and making it even stronger. (Also, notice any sabotaging you might do through doubt or simple contrariness. We often make a plan and then let a little contrary voice tell us that our day won’t be any different – just hard and exhausting, as usual. When we do this, we’re actually resetting the day’s plan. The new plan will play out just as easily as the first. The choice truly, is yours.) 

     

    Please – Like, share, follow, comment and forward to friends and colleagues. I’m Coleen Rhalena Renee  – a spiritual healer and teacher. I appreciate you helping me Head shotpass along these insights, teachings and thoughts to ponder.  I’m deeply grateful to all my readers and thank you for your support and for the work you do to heal the world and celebrate its beauty. 

    If you need assistance in walking your path visit my website and considering working with me if what I offer resonates with you. Many blessings, ~ Coleen

A Woman in Gold

In the last post, I spoke of feeling like a vessel with many cracks and of being in a cycle of initiation. Initiation is not a word we’re particularly familiar with in our times. But it’s a good word to know as one moves through life. It’s particularly helpful at those times of great change and discomfort. To recognize these as times of transformation and an initiation into something new in one’s life can really take the sting and angst out of the process.  To be in initiation requires letting go so new treasures can flow into your life.

This morning I lay in bed before starting my day. Those of you who know me personally or through this blog, know that I often consider the day ahead before getting out of bed. I like slow mornings. The last few mornings I’ve really felt that enlivened sense of anticipation and energy for the new day.

My old habit would be to approach it all like a Marine. You’ve seen the commercials. “We do more by 6 AM than most people do all day.” Oohra! But today this little voice whispered, “You still need to rest.”

Rest? When was the last time I truly rested? “Exactly,” the little voice said. So I snuggled back into my comforter and decided to actively rest. I know, this sounds like a contradiction. But for many of us, it’s not. I’ve over committed and been overly responsible for the world in the last decade or so. Rest is something I need to actively practice.

I imagine walking into a sacred chamber that nobody knows about but me. It’s cozy and inviting and look, there’s a massage table just waiting for me. I glide onto it and immediately feel my body remembering what it means to rest as my muscles melt in a Pavlovian way.

Soon, I sense someone’s presence. The me on the massage table doesn’t pay any attention, but the me imagining the whole thing notices. A woman approaches me on the massage table with a paint brush in her hand. She tenderly begins to paint all my cracksSingingtheworldcropped (2)_LI with gold. The gold paint is warm and nourishing. She knows to paint me both on the outside and the inside. She patiently and lovingly tends to all my cracks. With each stroke I sink deeper into relaxation. With each sinking, the cracks grow smaller. Together, we are making me whole again.

I am reminded of Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing what’s cracked with a precious lacquer of gold. “By repairing broken ceramics it’s possible to give a new lease of life to pottery that becomes even more refined thanks to its “scars”. The art of kintsugi teaches that broken objects are not something to hide but to display with pride. (find out more)

I am now a woman in gold, learning to rest so that scars may heal and be made into marks of beauty – to create a more precious vessel. This is magic at its best!

I invite you to look at your “cracks” in a new way, perhaps as an opportunity to create yourself anew and see your sacred life as more precious because of the scars you’ve earned.